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2024 PGCO Roadtrip
entrepreneur
career-change

I'd recommend trying to intern with a stock market education company or brokerage company, regardless of what degree you obtain.

I start my day at 7 a.m. with an hour-long workout. I'll spend the next hour checking and responding to emails. From 9 a.m. to 12 p.m. I conduct live training classes that teach beginners how to trade and invest in the stock market. After breaking for lunch, I'll have a meeting with my software development team. Then, I spend the afternoon meeting with prospective clients.

Founder & CEO

I'm not paying for you to pursue guitar as a career.

Failure

The Most Successful People Fail The Most

Is there a mistake that you made that felt so horrible that time?
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2024 VOHE Roadtrip
first-in-family
community-college
advanced-degree
veteran
army

A school district leader serves many different populations including students, parents, teachers, local government, and local businesses. A typical day involves responding to or facilitating these stakeholders individually or collaboratively toward the improvement of educational opportunities for students. This involves leading meetings, developing plans, visiting classrooms, speaking with teachers, advocating with local legislators, and a lot of writing.

Associate Superintendent for Teaching and Learning

Support & Encouragement

You Learn More From Failure

Did you have any leaders or mentors that you know influenced
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2023 Indiana Roadtrip
first-in-family
changed-major

I can't say I'd recommend getting a degree in psychology to do my work. I'd recommend a mechanical engineering technology degree if you wanted to attend school first. However, you can also find employers that will pay for schooling. So you can work in this field without the educational background up front and pursue it after. That way, you can see if it's the right fit and then potentially work to become an engineer or engineer technician, or pivot to something else if the fit isn't right.

I lost two best friends within 10 days of each other. The loss caused my to take a hard look at my life and career. It ultimately pushed me to pursue the career I have now.

A typical day starts with looking at which projects I have that need to be completed first. Then I work with engineers on any questions or issues that arise. My typical daily tasks include wire drawing, testing, and moving material around.

Research and Development Technician

Leadership Influence

I'm someone who loves to work with my hands it's the one thing I know
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Exploration

Try Different Things

You know, I'll say that my first 15 years was all about failure.
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2023 WCED Roadtrip
advanced-degree
Virtual Interview.
Interviewed in unknown but works in New Haven, CT USA.

I already consider myself a worrier, so coming out as a gay man caused a lot of stress for me. My work with emotional intelligence helped settle me and understand myself better.

Founding Director

It's not my job to talk to students about feelings.

Dealing With Failure And Learning To Adapt

How do you kind of get the energy to continue going back, even though the progress feels like it might be getting further and further away sometimes? &gt;&gt; I'm really balanced by challenge. You tell me something's impossible, I'm like, yes, okay, let's do this. And I think that's why research is very much for me, because research is like just endless challenges. And you have to be somebody who doesn't mind, who failure doesn't really got your soul. It's like, okay, that's another thing that needs to be solved, and I particularly love it. I'm just like every time something goes wrong, I get a hit of energy. And it's not for everybody, you know what I mean? But then, when it comes to the complexities that it's human, that's another set of challenges that you have to deal with. And in infectious disease, there's so much of that. It's so political. It's going to create suspicion and paranoia, and to me, it's the same thing. It's just like that's another puzzle to solve. How do we think about what each person needs, what we need to get from here to there? And so, it is a big piece of it. You can't do work in infectious disease and not see that as one part of the puzzles you need to solve. One part of your job is the people part, but it can be solved. You can find out places where your incentives are aligned, your visions are together, and then use that as a basis of how to move forward. 

Find the space where you're energized to do the work, not expending energy to do the work. I'm able to do so much work because I get energy from doing it. If it starts taking more energy than it's giving, then I know it's time to move on. So find whatever that space is for you. Figure out how you like to spend your day. What can't you take your mind off of? That's your flow state. What are you thinking about when you're not even thinking? That's how you'll know what you're supposed to be doing.

I run a lab and have about 40 people who work with me on computational genetics and experimental genomics. In computational genetics, we take the data in our genomes and use computers to try and decipher those codes. My lab is broadly focused on human health with a primary interest in infectious disease.

Principal Investigator

Determination & Hard Work

Passion

Staying Energized In Your Career Despite The Challenges

What are perhaps, you know, some expectations fed to you or expectations that came of your own beliefs that were perhaps not met and were kind of tough to deal with as you, you know, reach for that goal? &gt;&gt; I was kind of used to being let down. In fact, I think I was expecting to be let down more than I was expecting for stuff to work out. For a very long time, I had this phrase. Where I was like, stuff like that doesn't happen to people like me. But then I start asking myself like, why not me? And I had a lot of hurdles that I went through at first. So like going to one of my first performances and not a single person Clapped at all. I would have felt better if they would have booed me to be honest. &gt;&gt; [LAUGH] &gt;&gt; It was just so silent. I didn't know what to do, but the good part was is that there was a guy who told me to come back the next week, he was like, don't let this be The last time that we see you and so I adjusted and came back. So there was moments where I thought I was gonna win these different things, I thought I was supposed to be signed at a certain time. In hindsight, I needed to be developed in these other ways. It's okay to go through those moments of I hate to call it this failure, but like you need that and you don't fail because you didn't achieve the mission. Like I think the only time when you really, truly fail is if you just really stop it all together. That's the goal. It's like, I may not win all the time, but not losing all the time either. It's it's balance. 

I believe that in life you don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate. So make sure you're always advocating for yourself. Make sure that you're speaking up for what you want and creating opportunities for yourself. Don't just wait for someone to present an opportunity to you.

At Guitars Over Guns, we hire musicians to come into middle schools, high schools, and community centers to create relationships and mentor students for years on end. A mentor will arrive at a school with a lesson plan. We start off with a circle to check in with the students about how they're feeling—that check-in essentially guides the day. We'll teach lessons and lead activities to create a positive experience for students.

Regional Director

Stuff like that doesn't happen to people like me.

Adversity

Dealing With Expectations And Failure

I see people from all walks of life, and I have noticed that people can walk through my doors with preconceived notions of how they're going to succeed at this thing that is recreation. And so if we as a studio can frame it in a way that is, we're not gonna be great at something the first time we try it, that's okay, that's where growth comes from, right? It would be super boring if you graded everything right away. I sucked, I was terrible at clay when I tried it. I could not throw to save my life. It took me a very long time to get good at it, and the only reason that I have made it into what I've made it is because I enjoy that. That, this is a challenge, rather than it's a failure and then I should feel terrible about this, or I should go find something else to do, it's a, well, how do I solve this problem? And that's just such a helpful life skill, and so isn't that great to just be, it's just clay, right? We're making a thing and if it doesn't work, it's okay. 

Ask questions and network with people. Artists are very passionate about their work and therefore love sharing it with others. All you have to do is express interest in an artist's work and they'll be happy to introduce you to it.

I start by throwing a piece of clay, which is the process of forming it on the wheel. After it dries, it goes through the trimming process, where it's tidied up. That's where I'll add things like handles or knobs. I also paint and carve almost everything that I make. It then dries out completely and then goes into the kiln for its first firing. After it cools, then it's glazed and fired again. Outside of making pottery, I also work to create access for all people to work in this creative space.

Failure

The Most Successful People Fail The Most

The Most Successful People Fail The Most

J.R. Fenwick

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